BOSTON (CBS) – Children are the innocent bystanders in a divorce. As the adult, you need to take the lead and help them through this disruptive time.

Recent studies contradicted studies done in the 70s and 80s and have shown that kids do get beat up emotionally in a divorce and some never recover. It affects their future relationships and behavior.

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So here is where a couple should be spending their time, energy and money. Trying to do what is right by the kids. The kids should be a priority.

For most kids their standard of living changes and not for the better. According to the census bureau there are over 74 million kids under 18 in the US and of that number over 27 million are living in single parent households.

Over 23 million live with their mom and over 3 million live with their dad. Many of the kids living in a two-parent home are living with stepparents. That is a lot of kids affected by divorces.

Child support? How much should the non-custodial parent be expected to pay? Check the calculator at AllLaw to help you figure out how much a parent will need to pay in child support. If you have a child with special needs or special schooling requirements child support may be more.

How much will it cost you to raise your child? The numbers are staggering, according to the US Dept. of Agriculture’s most recent numbers for a child born in 2013, a middleclass family will pay out just over $245,000 ($245,340) for the care and feeding of a child thru age 18. But here in the northeast our costs are higher coming in at just over $280,000 ($282,480).

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That does not include college. Just the everyday expenses of raising a kid, like food, clothing, housing, health insurance, sports equipment, braces, computers, car seats etc. And what the Department of Agriculture considers middleclass is a family with a before tax income between $62,000 and $107,000. ($61,530 and $106,540)

Two more things: If you are relying on your spouse for child support and help with the college expenses be sure your spouse has life insurance naming you the beneficiary.

Check out’s website for a calculator on how much it will cost you to raise your child.


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