By Paula Ebben, WBZ-TVBy Paula Ebben

BOSTON (CBS) – Julie Dollinger loves being a mom. At 48 years old, Play-Doh and dress-up with her two young kids is now a part of the Brookline pediatrician’s daily routine. Dollinger says she was always hoping to have a family the conventional way.

“But it didn’t work out that way,” she says. “I didn’t meet anybody and I thought I’d like to try to have a family an unconventional way.” A sperm donor and five rounds of IVF later, little Bayla was cradled in Dollinger’s arms just 8 days shy of Dollinger’s 45th Birthday. Two years later Rafi arrived.

More women are deciding to have families later in life. According to the Department of Public Health, the average age of first time moms in Massachusetts is 27.7, the highest in the country.

WBZ-TV’s Paula Ebben reports

Fortunately for Dollinger, she had healthy pregnancies both times. But, there are increased risks with age. “About 50% of the pregnancies for women over the age of 41 or 42 do end in early miscarriage,” says Dr. Diane Kaufman of Beth Israel Deaconess Medical Center.

Older women are also more likely to deliver pre-term babies or have complications related to high blood pressure or diabetes. Dr. Kaufman says the hardest part for her older patients is “just getting pregnant is probably the first complication. With improved fertility treatments and prenatal care often women who do get pregnant do quite well.”

In Massachusetts, most insurance companies cover fertility treatments until the age of 44. After that, would-be moms have to pick up the tab themselves.

Dollinger does think about the age difference between herself and her kids. “I always do the math and I think how old will I be when the kids go to college? How old will I be if they get married? I also think that life teaches you a lot that prepares you for parenthood.”

Child psychologists says its the quality of the mothering, not the age that really matters when its comes to raising kids.

Comments (3)
  1. Ellen says:

    For God sake thing of the kids themselves. At 48 or 50 yes it’s to old to have babies no matter what gender. Can you imagine a 20 year old dealing with aging parents. Well is that fair! These old farts are only thinking of themselves and looking young. Selfish and narcissistic to say the least.

  2. joey levin says:

    As a woman of 42- and working on having a family- I do not think it is to old. People are living longer healthier lives now- to be 20 and have a parent who is 65 is not an issue- if they are healthy. I work out with people in their 80’s- They are not the 80’s we use to know.
    I also lost my father when I was 19- he was 52. I would have rather have had him live a healthy life and be old-
    Having a family is not selfish- it is the least selfish thing a woman can do.

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