By Jon Keller

BOSTON (CBS) – Given my comment the other day about how grotesque and exploitative all the media attention to a certain TV actor’s psychological meltdown tour is, I can’t bring myself to say his name out loud.

And I only bring up the sayings of “he who shall not be named” because he is inadvertently raising an interesting question for the rest of us to consider – what does “winning” really mean?

Listen to Jon’s commentary:

We know what “he who shall not be named” thinks it is – anything he does. After all, that’s what self-described “winners” like “he who shall not be named” are all about.

So there’s a definition to get our discussion going – winning is when you descend into a lifetime of drug abuse and domestic violence, when you have your kids taken away from you by the authorities, when you poison your personal relationships and your working relationships and turn yourself into a pitiful international symbol of narcissism and manic depression.

Is that your definition of winning, too?

Sorry, but count me out.

I’ve been keeping my eyes open for signs of friends and family members publicly coming to the defense of “he who shall not be named,” but haven’t seen any, only leech-like self-promoters like Bill Maher and Piers Morgan frantically trying to steer the spotlight onto themselves with defenses of the “right to party” that I guess are supposed to be edgy and hip.

But they just sound stupid.

So I guess having the support of loved ones would be on my list of signs that you’re winning.

Providing an environment for your spouse and children that is nurturing and meets their needs, rather than the self-serving Roman orgy motif that “he who shall not be named” seems to favor would be another trademark of the winner, in my view.

No, “he who shall not be named,” winning isn’t about money, partying, and lording it over everyone. It’s about the exact opposite – of all those things, and especially the opposite of “he who shall not be named.”

You can listen to Keller At Large on WBZ News Radio every weekday at 7:55 a.m. and 12:25 p.m. You can also watch Jon on WBZ-TV News.

Comments (11)
  1. BostonIrish says:

    People with self-absorbed, narcissistic personalities create definitions to justify their behavior. They are never wrong, and they think everyone looks up to them as special and glorious. A very dangerous and destructive personality trait. Sadly, even years of therapy doesn’t necessarily mean a cure, either.

  2. charlie says:

    Thank you for not mentioning the name of this so-called “winner”. These overpaid clowns prove every day that all one needs in this life is confidence and ignorance. If you have those two components then success is a sure thing.

  3. Eduardo says:

    Thank you for your common sense explanation of a “winner”

  4. KathyD says:

    I don’t want to “win” anything in life. I just want to be there for others. Winning doesn’t even come into the picture. I guess I’d replace it with the word “kindness.” But kindness is often looked upon as wimpiness and crazy liberal theology.

    And that’s the saddest thing of all in our culture.

  5. Stephen Stein says:

    Facebook is good for something… Jimmy Fallon as xxxx “Winning”:

  6. emom says:

    I have to wonder, so many celebraties think they are winners , but crash to earth in a ball of goo, But I have to wonder politicians are just like this they beleive they are big winners but in my mind they are total losers,, and I am talking about the one on the hill that shall be NAMELESS< have no respect for him none at all

  7. robert says:

    jon have you ever looked into the other siide of hardworking people, such as myself,whom have been injured on the job? My benefits were terminated as of 1/1/11 for no reason. I watch you every night and this is somrthing you should take a long look at! pltase reply for all that has happened to me and maybe you can find some answers. thank you

  8. mikey says:

    Is a CEO of a corporation a winner when he oversees his company’s downward spiral and then receives a severance package of millions? I think not.

    America today, being rewarded for failure. Sick.

  9. ENUF says:

    A winner is someone who has achieved a goal, whether set by themsleves or by a group or organization. In “his” mind he is a winner. A perverted winner, but still a winner in his own mind.

  10. eerin says:

    @KathyD – One can be both wining and kind. Like Bill Gates and Warren Buffett. The panhandler on the corner is kind but not winning. People should strive for both. So yes, kindness is often looked upon as wimpiness and crazy liberal theology.
    And if that’s all you aspire to be is “kind” then rightfully so.

  11. Chris says:

    winning to him and to me? id say its doing whatever it is that makes you happy, and lets be honest, the life he’s had, i think the majority of us would be happy. There are people built for marraige and kids and peaceful lives, sheen wasn’t, its not what we do that we regret, its what we don’t. And who here can honestly say they wouldnt want a few months of sheens life?

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